Lễ cầu tự (rite to pray for a child)

Culture and belief A record of custom.

About this rite: when it is held and for whom

Also called: Cầu con, Xin con, Lễ cầu con

By custom, a couple longing for a child goes to a pagoda, temple (đền), phủ or burns incense before the ancestors' altar to pray for a child to continue the line. Each place of worship has its own form of address and prayer text; many places have the custom of returning to give a thank-offering rite when a child is born.

When
No fixed date; by custom people often go in early spring (chùa Hương: first lunar month, second lunar month) or on the fifteenth day of the lunar month, the first day of the lunar month
For whom
Buddhas and Bodhisattvas at the pagoda; Thánh Mẫu (Holy Mothers), Bà Mụ (Midwife Goddesses) and the deities worshipped at the temple (đền), phủ; household deities and ancestors at home

Prayer text for cầu tự at home (praying to the household deities and ancestors before the day of going to the pagoda or temple)

  • Used across Vietnam
  • Folk practice
  • Indoor offering

What this prayer says

Prayer for a child at home, recited before the altar of the household deities and ancestors on the day before going to the pagoda or temple; the tín chủ (the person making the offering) presents offerings and states that the couple has long been without a child, asking the deities and ancestors to witness and accompany them in praying for a child.

The prayer below is kept in Vietnamese, the language it is read aloud in during the rite.

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Other texts for Lễ cầu tự (rite to pray for a child)

Versions by region, by tradition and for each part of the rite.

Offerings and how the rite is done

As commonly practised and recorded by the sources. Each family and each region may do it differently.

Used across Vietnam, Folk practice

When
No fixed date; the guide on tuvisonlong.com notes one may go on the fifteenth day of the lunar month or on an ordinary day, and pray at the pagoda or temple at least three times
Where the offerings are set
The ancestors' altar at home; the Tam Bảo (Three Jewels) altar at the pagoda; the altars at the temple (đền), phủ
Who makes the offering
The husband and wife together

Offerings

OfferingNotes
Incense, fresh flowers, fresh fruit, clean waterthe offering at the pagoda is a vegetarian offering
Betel leaves and areca nuts, cakes or a vegetarian offeringwhen making the offering at the temple (đền), phủ
Meat offeringOptional. at the temple (đền), phủ, when that place has such a custom and the management allows it
A vase of flowers, a plate of fruit, three cups of water, incensewhen praying before the ancestors' altar

Steps

  1. Praying at home first: announcing to the household deities and ancestors the matter of childlessness and asking the ancestors to accompany them to the pagoda, temple (đền) (tuvisonlong.com calls this phát tâm tại gia, raising the intention at home)
  2. The next day going to the pagoda, temple (đền), phủ to present the offering, burn incense, read the prayer text for a child, and state the names and ages of the husband and wife
  3. At the temple (đền), phủ, one addresses the deity worshipped there by the correct title and asks the thủ nhang (keeper of the shrine) about how to arrange the offering

Things to avoid

  • Do not place money on statues, incense bowls or ritual objects; donations should be put in the designated place
  • Do not burn a lot of votive paper at the pagoda on one's own initiative

Northern Vietnam, chùa Hương (Mỹ Đức, Hà Nội), đền Sinh, đền Hóa (Chí Linh, Hải Dương), đền Lăng Sương (Phú Thọ), Folk practice

When
Chùa Hương: first lunar month, second lunar month. Đền Lăng Sương: especially on festival and Tết occasions
Where the offerings are set
Chùa Hương: the rock grotto with stalactites called núi Cô, núi Cậu. Đền Sinh: before the stone slab called Đức Thánh mẫu Thạch Bàn

Offerings

OfferingNotes
Incense, oản (round sticky rice cakes), fruitbrought into chùa Hương
Cakes and sweetsbrought to the place of núi Cô, núi Cậu

Steps

  1. At chùa Hương, according to old custom as described in the press: make the offering to the Buddha, then go to the stalactite grotto, choose a stalactite, rub one's hand on it and pray to invite 'Cậu' (to pray for a son) or 'Cô' (to pray for a daughter) to come and stay with the couple
  2. On the way home it is as if there were one more person: when eating, an extra bowl and extra chopsticks are set; when taking the ferry, one extra fare is paid
  3. When a child is born, each year they bring the child back to the pagoda to give thanks; at đền Sinh people return to hold a thank-offering rite on the child's birthday

Southeast, chùa Ngọc Hoàng (TP. Hồ Chí Minh), Folk practice

Where the offerings are set
The worship room of Kim Hoa Thánh Mẫu and the 12 bà Mụ, on the left of the main hall of chùa Ngọc Hoàng

Offerings

OfferingNotes
Incense, fresh flowers, a tray of five fruits, betel leaves and areca nuts trimmed in phoenix-wing shape, candles
Xôi gấc (steamed sticky rice with gấc fruit) or xôi đỗ xanh (steamed sticky rice with mung beans), chè trôi nước (sweet soup with glutinous rice balls)
Votive paper moneyOptional. by local custom
A pair of turtles for releaseOptional. write the names and ages of the husband and wife on the turtle shells

Steps

  1. Arrange the offerings, light incense at the altar of Ngọc Hoàng, Kim Hoa Thánh Mẫu and the 12 Bà Mụ
  2. Read the prayer, stating full name, date of birth, address and the wish; it is said that someone on duty at the worship room will relay the prayer
  3. Hang a loop of thread on the statue: on the right when praying for a son, on the left when praying for a daughter (according to greensm.com)
  4. Rub the belly of the Bà Mụ statue, one's own belly, and the belly of the child statue at the feet of Bà Mụ, three times each (according to greensm.com)
  5. Release the pair of turtles into the pagoda's pond
  6. When the wish is granted, return to the pagoda to give thanks

The wording is kept exactly as published by the source. The dotted italic words are blanks for you to fill in.

Sources

  • Bài văn khấn cầu tự cho gia đình hiếm muộn con cái (tuvisonlong.com)
  • Thực hư chuyện hiếm muộn đến chùa cầu được con (baophapluat.vn)
  • Cách cầu con ở chùa Ngọc Hoàng TP.HCM (greensm.com)

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