Skip to content

Knowledge / Vietnam

Folk taboos

The Custom of "Father Must Stay Home Until Baby Is Named" of the Pu Péo People

Culture and belief A record of custom.
The Custom of "Father Must Stay Home Until Baby Is Named" of the Pu Péo People

TL;DR: The Pu Péo people believe that unnamed newborns are vulnerable to evil spirits. Therefore, the father must stay home from the birth until the child is named (3 days for girls, 5 days for boys) to protect the family. If he must go out, he has to wear a hat covering his face so spirits cannot recognize him.

Who are the Pu Péo people?

The Pu Péo are one of Vietnam's smallest ethnic groups, with around 678 people living mainly along the Vietnam-China border. Despite their small population, they preserve a rich cultural heritage, from men's chest-opening shirts and women's high-bun hairstyles to distinctive daily customs. Among these, the naming ritual requiring fathers to stay home until their child receives a name stands out as particularly fascinating.

Comparison table of taboos and rituals in the naming customs of the Pu Péo people.

SubjectWaiting time for namingTaboo regulations
Baby girlthree days after birth
Baby boyfive days after birth
Fatherfrom when the wife gives birth until the child is namedmust stay at home, not allowed to go out
Father when forced to go outduring the taboo periodwear a hat and cover up carefully so no one recognizes him
Familyduring the waiting time for namingmust not say aloud the intended name of the child
Placentaafter birthburied in a bamboo tube under the bed or wrapped in an old mat and placed on a tree branch in the forest

How does the three-tiered worldview shape Pu Péo taboos?

To understand this custom, one must first grasp the Pu Péo worldview. They believe the universe consists of three tiers: the sky, the earth, and the underworld. Each tier has different human appearances. Ancestral spirits reside above, while living people belong below. This belief creates an invisible but crucial boundary between the living world and the spiritual realm.

The Pu Péo believe all living things possess a soul within their body, which is the energy creating form and life. Human souls are more complex than those of other creatures, shaping not only physical form but also personality, behavior, emotions, and spirit. Each person is thought to have eight souls (m'rư vân ngóa) and nine spirits (m'xia vân au).

What is the role of the Mother Goddess in Pu Péo culture?

The Pu Péo believe in a deity called "Mother Goddess" (bà mụ) who directly influences every person. She can affect a child from pregnancy until age thirteen, bringing either good fortune or misfortune. This is why the Pu Péo pay great attention to pregnancy, childbirth, and naming ceremonies.

Birth rituals and early protection

When a Pu Péo woman goes into labor, the family quickly moves her to a private room and calls a midwife. The placenta is buried in a bamboo tube under the bed or wrapped in an old mat and placed on a forest tree branch. These practices aim to keep the newborn safe from evil forces.

Why do the Pu Péo avoid naming a baby too early?

The Pu Péo avoid naming newborns too early, believing that an early name makes the child vulnerable to evil spirits who might harm both baby and mother. During the waiting period, family members must never speak the planned name aloud.

The waiting period differs by gender:

  • For girls: 3 days after birth
  • For boys: 5 days after birth

Why must the father stay home after birth?

During this period, the father must absolutely not go outside. This serves two purposes: protecting the family from evil forces, and preventing bad omens. The Pu Péo believe dark forests and gardens harbor evil spirits who can sense a man with a newborn and follow him home, causing the baby to become sick and cry, and delaying the mother's recovery.

What if the father has to go out?

If the father must urgently go out, he must wear a hat and cover himself thoroughly so no one can recognize his face or figure. This disguise aims to fool supernatural forces. Only after the naming ceremony can the father walk out of the gate normally.

What does this ancient custom mean today?

Today, Pu Péo families still maintain this tradition with pride. However, its interpretation has evolved. Modern Pu Péo no longer fear the Mother Goddess or supernatural forces. Instead, fathers view this as precious time to care for their wives and children, expressing responsibility and family love.

This transformation shows the Pu Péo's cultural adaptability: they preserve ancestral traditions while infusing them with contemporary values. The custom has become a meaningful practice strengthening family bonds and highlighting the father's role during a child's first days. It stands as a vivid testament to Vietnam's cultural diversity and a lesson in how even a small community can preserve and enrich its heritage across generations.

In this article8 sections

Was this useful to you?

Share:

Frequently asked questions

Why must a Pu Péo father stay home when his child has not been named yet?

The Pu Péo believe unnamed newborns are vulnerable to evil spirits. The father stays home to protect his wife and child, because if he goes out, spirits in dark places might recognize him and follow him home, bringing bad omens.

How long do the Pu Péo wait before naming their child?

The timing differs by gender: girls can be named 3 days after birth, while boys must wait 5 days. During this waiting period, family members must never speak the planned name aloud.

What must a Pu Péo father do if he urgently needs to go out during the taboo period?

The father must wear a hat and cover himself thoroughly so no one can recognize his face or figure. This disguise aims to fool spirits so they cannot identify a man with a newborn and follow him home.

Read next

Kađai language group · Pu Péo

Related articles

Related lookup tools

References

  1. Tục lệ "con chưa có tên, cha phải ở nhà" của dân tộc Pu Péo - Cổng Thông tin điện tử Bộ Khoa học và Công nghệ
  2. Nhất Thanh, Đất lề quê thói
  3. Phan Kế Bính, Việt Nam phong tục (1915)
#PuPéo#NamingCustoms#FolkTaboos#EthnicMinority#VietnameseCulture#ChildbirthCustoms